Emotional Connection to Learn Chemistry
For her second strategy, Dr Lee spoke at length about an “Emotional Connection” between parent and child. This is what the teaching fraternity refers to as “Rapport”. (If you hadn’t read my post on the first strategy, click here) In layman’s terms, it means that ‘if your students likes you, they will do anything (your homework, tests, assignments etc) for you. And most likely they will do it well.
Why? Because they want to be in your good books.
This is a handy tool to have in our teaching know-hows but it’s a double-edged sword. Because if students hate you…GG haha. You mean know it as mental fortitude or grit, determination. There’s a TED talk that describes it as the X-factor which differentiates the people who become successful and the people who don’t. Watch it here.
Motivation, which is the main crux of her book, depends a lot on this “emotional tank’. Learning new things is difficult, learning chemistry at advanced level
So the rapport between students and teacher, child and parents, helps to see the student/child through tough periods. ‘A’ levels is one of the toughest period in a young person’s life. If the child has a strong peer group or a tutor that can guide them through, with good resources, it’s half the battle won.
As parents and Teachers, we can build this emotional connection with our child/students by not sabotaging it. How?
How NOT to Break the Emotional Connection
By not venting our frustrations at work on them, by not projecting our deepest insecurities on them. Being angry at the student/child distance them from us, causing them to activate their self-defence mechanism. And when there is a wall or divide between parent/child, teacher/students, they will choose to withdraw. As a result, they lose this emotional connection, get frustrated and give up trying.
In the Harvard Teaching and Learning course, they say that the lesson started 15 minutes before the bell. What are you learning about them in those precious minutes? (For those in the corporate world, “The sale happened (or was lost) before the customer ever stepped into your store.”)
Ok, that’s all for now. See you in strategy #3 Study Process to Learn Chemistry!